I am absolutely the worst at taking time for myself. I have about a million things going on in my head at any given time and hundreds of people who need me. I don’t mind being needed and I love the many roles I have, but that can be taxing on a person. I feel like I never have time to just sit down and chill because of all the things that need to be done. My brain says “If I relax then I am going to have to do twice as much tomorrow.” If I am honest, I am a person that doesn’t really know how to relax. According to my counselor husband, that’s not a very healthy place to be mentally or physically.
I think we would all agree that one of the best things we can do is take time for ourselves. I don’t mean watching a movie and folding laundry at the same time. I mean taking time just for me doing something that I love. So, the question is, how can a person like me begin to develop this healthy habit? I have done a bit of research, and here is what I found that I think might be helpful as I learn to make ME a priority!
Get rid of guilt
I feel guilty about everything. Eating that doughnut, watching a movie when I should be mopping, not playing with my kid as much as she wants, and the list can go on and on any given day. Guilt is a kill joy and we need to banish it. It’s not healthy and puts us in a terrible frame of mind. It’s okay to take some time just for ourselves. It’s okay to make me a priority. If we don’t there is going to be nothing left for anyone else.
When something is important, we put it on our calendar so we don’t forget it. I believe that “Me Time” is so important that we should put it on our calendars. Decide how much, and how often you want to start out with. You could start with 15 minutes a day or an hour once a week. You decide what works for you, then do it.
To find time for me, I am going to have to learn to say “no” and identify things in my life that are time killers. I am going to have to stop wasting time on things that are unproductive and use that time for myself. Let’s make a list of all the things we need to do and decide when is the best time to do them, so we can free up that personal time.
Make a plan
There are lots of things I want to do, finding the time is another story. I love to be crafty and garden. I would also like to try my hand at rehabbing furniture. I love traveling with my family and experiencing new places. Dig deep and think about the things that you love to do, then make the time to do it!
So I am challenging myself this week to schedule “Me Time.” To make it a priority. I need to understand that it is not being selfish, it’s actually being selfless. By doing this, I am ensuring that I will be able to be there for my family, friends and all the other people in this great world that need me. So are you with me? Are you going to invest in you? What do you love to do? How do you love to spend your free time?